Okay, Mom, listen... While you're still here, there's something that's been nagging at me for... a long time.

I'm so sorry.

Damon to Lily (hallucination - flash forward)

Hold Me, Thrill Me, Kiss Me, Kill Me is the eighth episode of the seventh season of The Vampire Diaries and the one hundred and forty-first episode of the series overall.


A FRACTURED FAMILY — As Julian and Lily throw a party to celebrate Nora and Mary Louise's Anniversary, Stefan and Damon set in motion a risky plan to eliminate a new threat posed by Julian. Meanwhile, following a major revelation uncovered by Valerie, Caroline is forced to face her new reality, even as it threatens to destroy her relationship with Stefan. Finally, determined to do what’s best for her family, Lily makes the most difficult decision of her life.



Main Cast

Special Recurring Guest Star

Recurring Cast



  • Unknown as Rayna


  • Antagonists: Julian and Mary Louise
  • In the flash forward, Damon is held captive at the TV station by the Huntress. At first it was assumed that the Huntress was Lily. Later on, it was actually a hallucination of Lily and the Huntress knocked out Damon.
    • In the last few seconds of the episode, the Huntress' real form was shown.
    • Damon was confirmed to have been affected by werewolf venom.
  • Valerie tells the rest of the Heretics what Julian did to her and her unborn child. Beau and Nora turned on Julian and sided with Valerie and Lily but Mary Louise does not believe Valerie's story and thus sided with Julian instead.
    • With Valerie's murder of Oscar, her "own brother", as part of her betrayal to her own family, is one of the reasons why Mary Louise chose to stand in Julian's side, much to the dismay of Nora.
  • Lily is the second vampire mother character to kill herself, the first was Elena's, Isobel Flemming under Klaus' compulsion in the season two episode Know Thy Enemy. Though Lily did so willingly to save her son Damon and Valerie from being killed by Julian.
    • Lily Salvatore staked herself to kill Julian not knowing that the latter was freed from the linking spell. He ordered Mary Louise to undo the spell to protect Lily from being killed when her sons get the chance to eliminate Julian, resulting in a backfire.
    • Julian grieved Lily's suicide, he was seen weeping in this episode indicating that he may have genuine feelings for her.
  • Both Damon and Elena, his sleeping girlfriend, have both watched their mothers kill themselves.
  • Mary Louise proposes to Nora, who accepts, but the engagement does not last long as Nora breaks things off when Mary betrays everyone and frees Julian.


  • This is the first episode of season seven in which Alaric and Bonnie are absent.


Body Count

Behind the Scenes

  • This is the first episode of the series overall, in which the third official main cast member (Kat Graham in this case) is absent.
  • Hashtag during the airing is #LilysChoice

Cultural References




Last.fm_play.png "Tongues" – Dear Rouge
Last.fm_play.png "Best That I Can" – Vance Joy
Last.fm_play.png "Backbeat" – DAGNY
Last.fm_play.png "Your Magazines" – Brain Tan
Last.fm_play.png "Tropique (Hernene Remix)" – Wild & Free
Last.fm_play.png "Young (Elephante Remix)" – Ayer
Last.fm_play.png "Glow" – Light & Motion
Last.fm_play.png "Beach" – Axel Flovent
Last.fm_play.png "Every Breath You Take" – Denmark + Winter
Last.fm_play.png "i) Alone" – Mikal Cronin




See also

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